OH DARLING, EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO FEEL BEAUTIFUL!

          You have decided to take control of your life...great! By doing so, you have already completed the first step. Confidence defines who you are and how you choose to live your life. I believe even the most confident people have their insecurities but they don't allow those insecurities to dictate their lives. In fact, they will do everything they can to overcome them without anyone else realizing they had a problem. False confidence helps trick your opponents  or audience into believing you can achieve anything. This is good to have when you aren't sure about something at the moment. However, the best type of confidence is true confidence. I am here to tell you that it is possible to reach the highest point of confidence and own it! Here are three steps to help you start your journey.

Step 1: Become familiar with your greatest insecurities. Believe it or not, we all feel insecure about something and it is important to identify it.

Step 2: Create a plan to tarnish these confidence crushing insecurities. Once you know what makes you feel bad you can begin to change it. For example, if you believe you are a horrible public speaker, start speaking in public more often. The more you stay away from what makes you feel insecure, the more it can potentially overpower you. Start off by talking in small groups, whether it's with your group of friends or in class, you can begin to see how it feels. This will help you realize that the worst is really not bad at all.  The most important question I ask myself anytime I am in an uncomfortable/unfamiliar situation is "WHAT'S THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN?" and truth be told, it is never as bad as it seems.

Step 3: Once you confidently master what seemed impossible, continue to go down the list of insecurities and knock them off one by one. Say you have seven insecurities in mind and decide to jot down five of them to work on. Once you have knocked one off the list, do not say you have four left, add one of the two lingering insecurities hiding in your mind to the list. The most important thing is to be honest with yourself during this process. If you aren't truly honest with yourself, it may be more difficult to overcome your insecurities.

         These general steps should help you overcome whatever is it you're feeling insecure about. Push aside the insecurities and allow the confidence to shine through!